Passion is a different story

July 5, 2012 at 10:09 am 4 comments

If you want to tell a story about following your dream you have to leave the fear based world and follow the rules of the Love driven world.  They are not the same.  We instinctively push away from fear  but we pull towards what we love.  You can’t do both at the same time.  Stories of being authentic, recognizing your unique gift and bringing it to the world, following your passion, and coming of age are all told from the love-driven world.

Here are the rules of operation in the love based world:

1. The people around the protagonist, her community, don’t see her true potential.  They see her as a pawn in their desire to further the fear driven world, if they see you at all.  Even if their intention is to be benevolent they are not allowing her to be herself.  Love is conditional which isn’t really love at all.  SOmetimes everything is all very comfortable and safe as long as you fit in.  The motivation to go on this journey has to come from inside you and it is a Virgin’s journey – the road to recognizing that you are of value for being yourself.

2. Some belief you hold in yourself is holding you back such as “I should be helping others”, “who am I to be beautiful, talented, spectacular?”, or “other people’s happiness is more important than mine.”  Notice again this is coming from inside the protagonist and we can see it on the screen.

3. Virgins do not flourish through mounting fear.  In a state of fear their focus becomes very narrow and uncreative.  The Virgin needs a Secret World where she is safe and appreciated.  For a while she must believe her secret is safe.  This gives her the freedom to grow into her potential.  She can follow what brings her joy in this world.  Put lots of joyful moments in the middle of your movie, not setbacks!  Let the audience watch her grow the way we marvel at flowers or butterflies emerging.  She must also go back and forth between her two worlds because she is not ready to exist on her own.  In the moment of moving back and forth there can be fear (or comedy) just not in the Secret World.

4. The Virgins world is full of relationships.  People are connected to each other and the growth of one will inspire the growth of another.  The antagonist in this story can grow out of love for the Virgin.  Fathers come to understand that their role is not to control their child but to love them and build a place of safety when they are being authentic.  Bosses see the error of their ways.  You don’t have to kill off or exile your antagonist in a story of following your passion.  It is better if you see them grow to become a better person for having known the Virgin.

5. Unexpected outcomes happen in a Virgin story.  Billy does not set out to become the first male lead in Swan Lake.  But he was and it was magnificent.  The key is for the Virgin to stay connected to what s/he loves and follow it wherever it takes her.  S/he opens herself to the play of the universe.  When the Virgin is being true to herself, shining her light, the world becomes brighter.  Art, connection, growth and change are all possible, in ways beyond what you initially imagined.  If your character dreams of being a dancer she may not get into the school she applied to but she danced in the streets igniting a new dance craze and dancing becomes part of our everyday lives.  The goal was not as important as finding a connection to what she loves.  The rest is luck, synchronicity, or dare I say, destiny.

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  • 1. news feed  |  February 7, 2013 at 1:38 am

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    • 2. Kim Hudson  |  February 8, 2013 at 9:16 am

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  • 3. kellyrtillson  |  February 20, 2013 at 9:49 pm

    Reblogged this on loveyourtoast and commented:
    Here are the writings of Kim Hudson, the brilliant author of The Virgin’s Promise. This is the story I want my life to be right now.

    Is it silly that sometimes I think, “If my life were a movie, I would want this to happen”? Is it silly that sometimes I think I should set out to make my life into something I would watch? I don’t want to watch a movie about a girl who just works as a unit assistant for several years in a row. I want to watch a movie about a girl who decides to become a punk accordion player and publishes her own literary magazine and becomes a major figure in the Joy Underground.

    • 4. Kim Hudson  |  March 21, 2013 at 9:52 am

      Wow. Just reading this I want to stand up and cheer. I totally agree. The reason there are virgin stories is to teach us to be a virgin in the story of our own life. Embedded in each of the beats is the method for doing this. The more I get into it, the more interesting it becomes. This will be the subject of my short seminar in Freemantle, Australia in August for the Romance Writers of Australia. It sounds like you have awakened to your inner voice and your next step is to find a secret world, a safe environment where you can joyously explore what makes you shine and follow that feeling without self criticism. You move back and forth between your regular work and this world for a while, each world playing a role in your development.

      You have hit the nail on the head. We should all be playing the leading role in the story of our lives.


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